I know this is not a consumer topic but I felt compelled to write this. Another tragic shooting took place in California with more innocent lives being sacrificed. But can we analyze the murderer and others in the past like him? What do they all have in common? They are all young males who have either been bullied or rejected by women. Unfortunately it drives some to insanity.
I can say having been bullied myself for a short period of time in high school (until I knocked out the tooth of one of the “tough” guys, got suspended three days, paid for the tooth repair, and then became a “friend” of the bullying crowd), it is a terrible and lonely feeling. Parents, who are oftentimes too busy to help their child with these problems, sometimes have their lives turned upside down when their child commits one of these horrible crimes, or lesser ones perhaps. So what to do?
First, there should be very strong penalties in any institute of education against bullies. There should be a mechanism for reporting such acts, and the bully should face a mandatory police session with a stern warning. Bullying, big guys or groups against a smaller person is absolutely inexcusable. I just feel it is laughed off most of the time by lazy and indifferent overseers.
Next, it is a normal course of events for young females to reject “suitors” who show interest. If this, and the other courting rituals which exist for thousands of years, were explained and taught to high school students, perhaps they could better cope with rejection, seeing it as a normal part of the boy-girl meeting process. Pursuit of someone worthwhile is something that takes time and patience. Many of these killers do not have, or have not been taught, patience.
Lastly, I firmly believe in the right to bear arms guaranteed to us in the constitution. But I cannot see how the gun lobby can object to an application process to obtain firearms. Come on, what’s the big deal? You apply, you get interviewed, you wait a short period of time, and get your permit. I am sure the competent police officials that would administer these tests would spot a troubled young person, and hopefully most of these massacres could be prevented. Come on, NRA, do the right thing.
I do not profess to be an expert on human behavior, but we must take steps as a society to ward off insane behavior that deprives other families of their innocent children.
I gathered a lot of insight on the “courtship” process by reading two superb books on the subject, Love Tactics and More Love Tactics. I strongly recommend them, and would have my own children read them as a mandatory assignment.